I can’t believe we finally made it to 2021. We all know how hard 2020 was, some more hard for others. I know for myself 2020 was the hardest year I’ve gone through so far. We faced a pandemic, started a movement that our ancestors have fought so hard for. Some people lost loved ones, and lost their jobs. There were a lot of highs as well as some lows. Even though 2020 was a tough year, it taught me so many things I didn’t know about myself and life.
Everyday Isn’t promised
During 2020, we experienced a great loss in my family. Going through this was the hardest and roughest part of 2020. Learning to accept it, and process it was very difficult for myself and my family. While dealing with this, it really taught me that everyday isn’t promised. God doesn’t guarantee that you will be able to wake up the next day and live. You have to live your life abundantly; as if tomorrow is your last day. Let go of those grudges you may have against others, and mend those broken relationships that once meant a lot to you (if it’s not toxic). Go after your dreams, and ambitions in life. The road to get there may be hard, but knowing you fulfilled your purpose in life speaks volumes.
Live unapologetically
During the year 2020, a lot of time I would care about what anyone thinks or how they feel about me. I’ve realized how much this really has affected my mental health. For this year, I want to live unapologetically in my skin. Do what makes me happy, and stay true to myself. I’ve also realized that I tend to be a “people pleaser”, and that’s not the way to live. Now this doesn’t mean that I’m unkind or don’t care about anyone else’s needs before mine. It just means that I value myself, and I need to fully love the person that I am and will continue to grow into.
be more open to expressing feelings
Ever since I was younger, I’ve always struggled with expressing my feelings to others. Last year I learned that I have an issue with confronting others on different issues that is bothering me. I soon realized how unhealthy this actually is, because instead of being open to my feelings I suppressed them. Causing me to resent people more, thus creating an unhealthy relationship. I’ve learned that being more open to my feelings creates an open and healthy space between me and another person. No one will really know how you feel unless you speak up for yourself.
be more intentional
This year my word is “INTENTIONAL”. If 2020 showed me anything, it’s that being more intentional with my time is important. For myself, trying to maintain my blog, work a full-time job, while also being a mother and partner can be overwhelming. I want to look back at my life and know that the amount of time I spent was worth it. Everything that I do from now on, I want to know that I truly created a meaning in life and purpose. And letting go of things that no longer serve me is the first step.
In the end 2020 has taught me so many lessons that I never knew I needed. I’m thankful for these lessons because without them, I would never reach my full potential in life. For 2021, I want to continue to grow and learn, so that I can become the person I’m destined to be. I hope this post was helpful and inspired you to make necessary changes in your life. What’s one thing you learned from 2020? Let’s chat below!
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Oh my goodness Kelondra this is really good and reminds me of my younger self in so many ways. I love where you desire to be intentional while realizing that tomorrow is not promised to us. For years I struggled with not expressing my emotions and as you stated ended up resenting others. Through growth and prayer it’s so much easier to share now. I’m so excited to see all that God has in store for you this year! Thanks for sharing
Living unapologetically is definitely one that I’ve learned as I’ve gotten older, and especially over the past year. Being away from everyone, I realized that so many things don’t matter. I’m living how I want and not worrying about what anyone thinks. This was an awesome post!
I used to be a people pleaser until I realized that those very same people weren’t going to have to deal with the consequences of me being unhappy. I love your word for the year ! Being intentional is so important because it makes sure that you are not wasting your time on things that ultimately have no purpose and get you nowhere. Loved this post Kelondra!
2020 was a hard but necessary year! I definitely learned life is too short and you have to live life intentionally. It’s crazy how one yeah we’re turned upside down but it changed my few on life. Great post girl!
Reading this post made me smile because often times we forget to put ourselves first, and when we do put ourselves first we feel guilt for that. I love your word for the year because being intentional is really what we need this year after what 2020 showed us. I’m truly sorry for your loss and I pray you’re doing okay.
I like that you are being more open with your feelings. That’s something I still struggle with that I hope I can work on too. I think for me, I’m afraid of how the person might react. Really lovely post!
I resonate with each one of your lessons Kelondra! I definitely can relate to being more open to expressing my feelings. Last year, I was not one for causing confrontation even if I knew I was being done wrong. I am speaking up for myself more this year. I deserve it. We both do! Plus we both have the same word of the year! Everything I do this year will be in purpose! I hope you have a great year sis!