When I found I was pregnant and going to be a mom, not going to lie I was terrified. I knew growing up that one day I wanted to be a mom; but at the same time I was so scared that I wouldn’t be good at it. So as a new mom, I was absolutely clueless on what to do and what not to do. But little did I know that my son would actually be the one teaching me lessons about life; and to be a better mom. Now fast forward two years later, I have a two year old who brings our family so much joy. He’s made me a better mom and a better person. Check out below on the 5 Things My Son Has Taught Me.
You Don’t Have To Be Perfect
You don’t have to be perfect and always have it together. There are going to be days where your house will be a mess, or you won’t take the time to do your makeup for the day. Honestly, your kids won’t care how you look, they just want you to play with them, and love them. Sometimes I can be so hard on myself, when I feel I’m not doing enough, or my son isn’t as far advanced as other kids. I’ve have to tell myself, that I’m being the best mom I can be and that’s what matters the most. I just honestly try to give myself grace in the end.
Let Go Of Expectations
As parents we tend to have expectations of how things will go. These can be what kind of parent we will be, or how we want to raise our kids. To be truthfully honest raising kids won’t be easy at all. When I found out I was pregnant, I swore up and down I was going to be that mom who didn’t let her child watch TV, or use a tablet. And here we are two years later, and I’m doing the exact opposite with my son. I say this because you may have a plan and tell yourself you will be this type of mom, but in reality when that time comes things can change. It’s better to let go of these high expectations and just do the best you can. What lets me know I am being the best mom I can be, is when I see the light within my child. He has such a good spirit and is always so happy. This is what’s let me know I am being the best mom I can be.
Be In The Moment
As parents our minds are everywhere and we are constantly having a million things to do. It can be hard to take time and enjoy all of the little moments. We tend to get so busy that we don’t stop and listen to our kids when they want us to play with them or just to be in our arms. With me so heavily involved in social media, at times I find myself on there more than I should be. This is when I put my phone down, and spend time with my family. I’ve learned that these moments go by fast, and it’s so important that we enjoy them while we can.
Have More Patience
Not going to lie, you will need a lot of patience when dealing with a child. There will be plenty of times when they will test your limit. I’ve had so many people tell me I am so patient when it comes to my son. And honestly, there have been many times where I have had to take a breath so I don’t overreact to the situation. Kids move at their own pace and are in their own little world. There will be times where your kids may not eat what you made for dinner, or they just aren’t listening to you at all. Now while I myself am learning to have more patience, I still try to instill the same within my son. He tends to get frustrated if he doesn’t get something right the first time or if something isn’t going his way.
Love Is Unconditional
When I had my son, I never knew how much I could love and be loved by my son. The moment I heard his cry and saw him for the first time, I felt an overwhelming amount of unconditional love. He is always on my mind, and I tend to get emotional just thinking about him growing up in this world. Every time I come home from work, he gets so excited and runs into my arms. I can be having the worst day but when I look at him, it all goes away. Now I’m not going to lie, sometimes my son can drive me a little crazy, but I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way.
In the end my son has taught me to be a better mom, and has taught me to be a better version of myself. As time goes by, I know these lessons will grow and new lessons will emerge. What lessons has your child taught you so far?
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This was so beautifully written , Kelondra! I also said a lot of things I wouldn’t do with my kid , but as the situation changed so did my thought process and I think that’s the big takeaway! Being flexible is so key as a parent, because things are bound to change . And when things change we have to give ourselves grace to allow it!
I love everything about this post! The photos & all! I can relate to everything you said too, with my daughter teaching me very similar things. She’s also helped me realize that one of my main purposes in life is to raise amazing humans who truly care about the world & those in it.
I truly enjoyed reading this Kelondra! You very eloquently explained some of the ebbs and flows of motherhood. Like, everyone else I also had several things that I thought my children wouldn’t do or I planned to not allow them to do. However; I’m grateful that God knows better than I. My children and I are so much better off doing it his way instead of mine. Has it been perfect no it hasn’t. I can definitely agree with all of the above and add that my willingness to be flexible is paramount. The final thing I’ll add is we may fail for lack of a better word but we are not failures. As mothers we tend to be very hard on ourselves when instead we need to grant ourselves GRACE!
The pictures turned out amazing. The one thing my little has taught me is to take it slow and enjoy life and all it has to offer.